I can't tell you how often I get an email or message from someone I don't know asking Me to make him My slave.
No introduction, no communication, just a one liner telling Me to make him My slave.
I blame a lack of basic intelligence and understanding about BDSM and Femdom for this phenomenon. A lot of men simply watch Femdom porn to jerk off, and think THATS what slavery is.
But they couldn't be more wrong!
Unless you are looking for a temporary role play of Domme/slave , D/s is one of the most intimate and sacred relationships you can EVER have.
Just think about it. NOBODY will ever know you as well as your Domme does. She knows all your hidden desires , your deepest fantasies and your darkest secrets. You can explore a side of yourself with Her that not many other people in your life would understand or even approve of. But your Domme will guide you and help you discover your limits without ever judging you or making you feel like there's something wrong with you.
How does that happen?
It happens by making an effort to form a relationship with your Domme. Thats what slavery is. Its a relationship. And just like any other relationship in life, it takes communication, trust and understanding from both sides.
I compare it to a marriage. You wouldnt go up to someone you don't know and ask her to marry you immediately. you would make an effort to get to know her, let her know you and then see if you are compatible with each other.
The same way, just because you might get off on a particular Domme and enjoy jerking off to Her content, doesn't mean that you're automatically compatible to be Her slave.
Slavery isn't just doing fun tasks and funishments, or jerking off for your Domme. Slavery is a relationship. Its a commitment. Its putting Her needs above your own and trusting Her with your well being beyond any limits.
Its really not something to be taken lightly and some people will be a sub for years before deciding to commit as a slave. Why do you think they have collaring ceremonies?
Theres absolutely nothing wrong with being a submissive who only wants to serve when he's horny, but be true to yourself and also to your Domme.
So the next time you contact a Domme, ask yourself what it is you truly want...
a life of slavery or a session to get yourself off?