Collective Suffering
The world is hurting right now, and everyone is fighting battles that nobody knows or could even imagine. Between struggles with mental health, physical disabilities, financial woes, etc... it can all seem so bleak and overwhelming at times.
Mother Earth is suffering like never before, and so are Her children.
I have always come forward and been an ally for anyone who is marginalized or faces discrimination, and helping others comes as naturally to Me as being a sadist does.
Because I have fought My own battles multiple times and continue to do so, it has made Me more empathetic and insightful towards the pain and struggles that other people go through.
In the ten years that I have been Makali, I realized there is one section of society that has almost fallen into the cracks.
The Forgotten Ones
The regular guy next door.
I know there is a lot of misogyny and toxic masculinity prevalent in society today, and I am aware that there are some truly vile and hateful men (I have unfortunately been in close proximity to some) but that's not what this is about.
This is about the successful corporate guy who is silently suffocating under a heavy cloud of depression and self-doubt.
The introverted student, overwhelmed by feelings of hopelessness and despair because he's "different" from others.
The stoic neighbor, secretly fighting a battle with his addiction to porn.
The sociable friend, inwardly consumed by thoughts of self-harm because he has kinks that society doesn't deem "acceptable."
The loving father who struggles every day to find a balance between his kink and vanilla life but is unable to find peace in either one.
The handsome banker wracked by guilt because he craves things that aren't considered "masculine."
The list goes on and on...
They are all around us.
In our homes.
In our offices.
In our beds.
In our society.
Today, when talking about mental health has become somewhat more acceptable in certain places, society STILL places a stigma on men speaking openly about their issues and some have suppressed theirs for so long that it not only has a negative impact on the quality of their lives, but also on the lives of those connected to them.
When one isn't at peace within oneself, strong negative feelings start taking over. That negativity if left unchecked, starts to fester, and then one of two things happen.
The individual is consumed with strong feelings of self-loathing that can lead to serious issues not just in their mental health, but oftentimes will lead to chronic health issues as well, such as high blood pressure, diabetes, high cholesterol, erectile disfunction and in some cases even cancer.
Sometimes that self-loathing becomes so very toxic that it is also turns outward and is one of the reasons for an increase in violence, in horrific crimes against Women, in online trolling and harassment, in misogyny, and in toxic masculinity.
Makali
When I stepped into the Indian kink community as Makali, My main goals at the time were not just to educate people about Femdom and BDSM, but also to provide a safe, non-judgmental place where submissive men could be themselves.
A place where they could come to terms with who they are and try and find some much needed balance in their lives.
A place where they could alleviate some of the mental and emotional baggage they've been carrying around for so long.
That's why right from the start I was always VERY clear that My Sessions are for a mental and emotional release, and NEVER a physical one.
As someone who had made Her home in the darkness for far too long, and who crawled out of rock bottom more times than She can remember, I have personally experienced the therapeutic effects and oftentimes even a Spiritual experience that can come through kink.
Because our bodies are our temples.
Our minds can be our strongest weapon or our greatest enemy.
Our hearts can lead us to take great leaps of faith, or to live broken and defeated lives.
Our temple.
But just as we have misused and abused our Mother Earth for so long, we have also been unkind and neglectful to ourselves and to our temple.
We have forgotten how to love ourselves.
We have forgotten how to accept ourselves.
We have forgotten how to be kind to ourselves.
We have forgotten how to be patient with ourselves.
We have forgotten how to just BE.
The Origin of Makalism
When I was inspired to come up with the term "Makalism," I honestly had no idea what its purpose was or what it was intended for.
But as always, it came from My gut, from My Higher Self, and so I took that first step onto the invisible bridge that only reveals itself to you as you progress ahead.
When I was struggling to survive My own private hell for over two years and navigating My way out of the darkness, that's when the purpose of Makalism revealed itself to Me.
Oh, it wasn't some great awakening, or a torrent of sudden knowledge and power that flooded Me from within and miraculously cured all My ills.
I didn't suddenly become infused with love and light, or instantly reach a state of Zen.
If only!
Because life doesn't always work that way.
At least Mine doesn't.
No, it was more like a slow trickle, an awareness that gently moved deeply within Me, illuminating areas I didn't know existed and laying bare strength I didn't know I possessed.
It was the knowledge, the understanding and the realization that there is more to Me than My pain and My brokenness. That I am not a victim. I'm not even a survivor.
Oh no, I am SO much more than that.
I am a Fucking Warrior.
The Origination of Makalism
The first line of the "Makali Mantra" is "I am your religion" and although many of My devotees and disciples worship Me as such, Makalism itself isn't a religion.
Makalism is nothing more than a simple philosophy or a guide that helps you create the best version of yourself and live the best quality of life that you can.
I'm not a professional counselor.
I'm not a Guru.
I'm just a beautifully broken and perfectly imperfect soul who's learnt to grow wiser from each challenge She faces and grow stronger each time that She falls.
I spent a major part of My life hating Myself and questioning the very purpose for My existence, until one day when I thought all was lost, and I no longer had the strength left to fight, I realized that life isn't about finding yourself.
We spend so much time either trying to escape from ourselves through addictions, unhealthy relationships, or an obsession with material things, or we try to find ourselves by depending on external factors for our peace and our joy.
But neither method works for long and soon we are back in that all-consuming darkness.
Peace doesn't come from eliminating that constant voice in your head that deludes you into believing you're not good enough and never will be.
It's much simpler. And so much more terrifying!
Life is about realizing that one doesn't HAVE to feel helpless. That there is ALWAYS a choice.
We can CHOOSE how we want to live our lives and WHO we want to be. It isn't easy, but then again nothing worth having usually is. But it is DEFINITELY worth it. Instead of listening to that constant voice or trying to make it stop, we learn to tune it out, and listen to our gut instead.
Instead of trying to find love and joy through external sources we learn to look within ourselves and connect with the love and joy that has always been there but was hidden.
But change can often be frightening, and choices can seem intimidating.
And so many of us would rather make do with the familiarity of pain than take that first step into the unknown.
That's where Makalism comes in.
It's a teaching based on love.
And kindness.
And healing.
And most of all on acceptance.
Because until and unless we stop resisting that which already exists, we cannot bring about any meaningful change.
Makalism can be used by anyone who finds it resonates with them, and who feels connected with it in some way, but it's primary focus will be on helping men to heal.
To remind them that they can stop trying to search for their true selves, because the daily actions that they take no matter how small they may seem, and the choices that they make will allow them to create the version of themselves that they truly want to be.
And that's how they'll end up living their best lives and improving the quality of life of those around them.
Femdom, BDSM, and Findom will always be a passion and priority in My life, because Makali is who I am and who I'll always be.
But Makalism?
Makalism is the reason I exist.
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