I don't like labels. Never have.
But when I decided to come out into the public as a Domme I had to label Myself. So first was the " Domme Name ". Took Me a while to come up with that. Finally found something that resonates with Me and highlights 2 strong influences in My life...
The Moon and Goddess Kali. Makali isn't a take on Goddess Kali's Name. Makali means moon while at the same time spelling out the Goddess's name, but never would I EVER presume or be disrespectful enough to name Myself after Her. Once I came up with a name it was time to reveal Myself to the world. So I then presented Myself as a Pro Domme. In My mind back then, calling Myself a Pro Domme meant I was letting people know I was "professional" when it came to ethics, the value I placed on the safety and privacy of My subs and the care I took to ensure their time with Me would be a positive and sometimes life changing experience but never leave them harmed in any way, be it physically, mentally or emotionally. However, after being in a public scene for a while I came to see that this label didn't sit right with Me. When someone approached Me and asked what services I provided or behaved like a client, My gut would churn and My very being would revolt. Because for ME, the MOST important and most fundamental part of being a Domme and interacting with a sub is the Power Exchange. Femdom and D/s is something I consider sacred. Its not a role I play or a fantasy I enact. Its who I am and how I live My life. Its more than My identity, its an intrinsic part of My very existence . Having said that, I found that for Me to truly be authentic with Myself and with the person who was serving Me, I had to find some compatibility with him. We needed to be compatible not only through mutual kinks but also in our mindset, so that regardless of the realities of who he is in his vanilla life, once the door is closed and hes in MY presence, he willingly surrenders completely to Me and knows that I AM superior to him in that moment when the world has shrunk to just Me and him... and his only reason for existence is to serve Me. Thats why even though I've come across some really wonderful men who are Dominant or just kinky, I wouldn't want to have a session with them. There is ABSOLUTELY NOTHING wrong in being kinky without being submissive, but it just isn't compatible with what I want or need. I can't consider My subs clients when they serve Me. I don't offer them any services from MY side. What I DO provide them with, is the opportunity to provide ME with their service to saitiate the mostly hidden side of their submissive selves. So then WHY do I charge for My sessions if I'm not a Pro Domme? I know the fact that I don't call Myself a Pro Domme and still charge for My sessions not only confuses many people
That's for Part II