BDSM is all about being yourself,exploring your fetishes and pushing your boundaries,but at the same time you want to be safe and not end up injured or scammed.
Here are a few red flags to look out for when you communicate with a Pro Domme :
1. She asks for money in advance
If you are contacting Her for a Real Time Session, and She wants at least half the amount sent in advance,or sends you Her bank details within the first few emails ,chances are you wont be hearing from Her again,or She will just prolong the communication without fixing a real meeting in order to see how long She can keep milking cash out of you. If being a paypig turns you on its fine,but if you have other expectations you will probably be disappointed.
2.She demands a Tribute for a vanilla meeting
If you are meeting for the first time,just to discuss an upcoming Session then there is NO reason She should be asking for a Tribute. If you want to take Her a small gift thats fine,and is up to you,but should not be a condition set by Her. Paying the bill if you meet for coffee or lunch etc...is chivalrous and more than enough,unless YOU choose to do more.
3.She doesnt know terms such as 'SAFE WORD'/SUB SPACE/AFTER CARE etc..
If a Domme tells you that Her Sessions are 'no limit' and She doesnt believe in Safe Words,I would suggest you dont go any further. She is either clueless or a psycho,and both can be extremely dangerous !
4. She refuses to verify Herself via cam or a casual meeting before the Session
Speaking to someone over the phone just isnt good enough in My opinion,and you should be able to verify each other on cam or through a casual public meeting before booking a Session. That way you know exactly who you are having a Session with.
5.She gets aggressive and vague when you ask Her informative questions
She may be a Domme and you may be a slave,but there should be a level of TRUST and RESPECT before you have a Session. Ask questions about privacy,to ensure there wont be anyone else present during a Session (unless thats what you have negotiated with Her) and also make sure that She knows how to sterilize and disinfect ALL Her equipment and toys. you dont want to end up having toys used on you that are covered with someone else's bodily fluids ! Ask Her what kind of After Care She provides and if She is equipped with a small FIRST AID kit for any unforeseen emergency.
I hope these tips help,and if anyone has any questions etc.. please feel to send Me a personal message :)